SCST 001 – SOUL-TIE EXPLAINED

Unlike in the years gone-by, modern technology has made it easy to explain some spiritual factors which we considered a mystery. Soul-tie is one of such things. When we say that the souls of two different individuals are tied together so that what happens to one person have direct effect on his partner, we have scientific examples to prove it. My children and staff can use the data on my phone if they are connected to me through Hotspot. More than three of them can connect to me and use the same data if they have the password. There is no visible cord or cable linking our different phones but we can all carry out many activities even though we are within a given distance from each other. If I turn off my phone or data, each of them are automatically logged out of the internet. I can run out of data because of their activities because they are using my data. This is the way some people’s souls are bound together and their lives are intertwined. The bible says something about this.

This is Judah discussing the soul-tie between Jacob their father and Benjamin his last-born son.

“So now, if the boy is not with us when I go back to your servant my father and if my father, whose life is closely bound up with the boy’s life, sees that the boy isn’t there, he will die. Your servants will bring the gray head of our father down to the grave in sorrow. Gen 44:30-31NIV

The following discusses the soul-tie between David and Jonathan.

Now when he had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul. 1 Sam 18:1NKJV

In both cases, we are told that the souls of the parties are tied together.

Soul-tie in its original sense is not a bad thing. It is the bond keeping members of the same family together when times are hard or a member of the family is passing through a difficult situation. It is the bond keeping couples together even when the desire for sex fades. Even in organizations and churches; many of such bodies would not have survived if there was no soul-tie. Pastors and members would lose the essence of making sacrifice for each other if not for soul-tie.

We have Godly Soul-tie and ungodly Soul-tie. Soul-tie is said to be godly if it is within the confines of moral relationship and leads to decent commitment and loyalty to those concerned.  Fathers have natural attachment to their first daughters and ladies have special feelings for the men that broke their virginity. When couples live together for a long time, they begin to have some semblance in their appearance and they have this attachment that they may not be able to eat if one party is not present on the table. It is the reason marriages last up to twenty years and beyond.

It is said to be ungodly if the bond is pervasive like a father living in sexual attachment to his daughter or a married woman still desiring sex from a former lover while living in a marriage. Incest is the result of ungodly soul-tie. It is also ungodly if the bond is oppressive to a partner or used as a tool of oppression against him. We see the example of this in the case of Samson and Delilah

Then she said to him, “How can you say, ‘I love you,’ when you won’t confide in me? This is the third time you have made a fool of me and haven’t told me the secret of your great strength.” With such nagging she prodded him day after day until he was tired to death Judg 16:15-16NIV

Samson was in love with a woman who never really loved him. This woman had proven the three times he shared a secret with her that she wanted to kill him but Samson had no power to walk away. Delilah discovered this and kept tormenting him until she got him to surrender his secret and she betrayed him to death.

There are people who are living in similar abusive relationship with people who take advantage of them and torture them until they waste their entire destiny. Drunken men exploit the emotional attachment of female lovers, they steal their money and physically abuse them and the victim is not able to walk out of the relationship because of the bondage of ungodly soul-tie. Women exploit the emotional attachment their man has to them, in some cases they sleep with other men and do some terrible things against the man and this man is not able to walk away because of the same bondage of ungodly soul-tie.

Outsiders are shocked that the tortured person is not able to walk away because the ungodly soul-tie is not visible to the natural eyes. Some of this is as a result of a satanic yoke due to a spell. At the time of writing this there was a news report that a man suddenly regained his sanity after the ropes holding the beads on the waist of the woman he was living with broke and the beads scattered on the ground. He had left his legitimate wife to have sex with the woman and her spell caught him. The soul-tie that bound him to that woman was diabolic.

There are those borne out of natural affection when someone truly loves an abusive person and his soul is bound with the soul of such negative person. Like Delilah, the abusive person begins to exert oppressive control over the victim. This is also ungodly soul-tie. I have counseled many men and women in this kind of condition.

There are times when natural factors are the reason for the negative factors. A friend of mine expressed his emotional pain after he lost his wife in these words, “Pastor Emma, there is no word appropriate to express what happens in the life of a person who lost his spouse. The world seems to come to an end. One loses the essence to continue to live”.

That means that the soul of the living person is still bound to that of the dead partner. “So now, if the boy is not with us when I go back to your servant my father and if my father, whose life is closely bound up with the boy’s life, sees that the boy isn’t there, he will die”.

Some people have remained in mourning more than ten years after they lost their spouse. We have instances people have died soon after the death of someone they have soul-tie with. In some cases, widows and widowers are not able to enter into and enjoy relationship with someone else. Some have developed emotional breakdown that has resulted in insanity. You hear the woman always referring to the dead person as, “My husband”, even while in another serious relationship. You observe that the man is never able to feel like a man in the presence of another woman. A woman complained that her husband can only have sexual arousal if he kept repeating the name of his late wife. This is not right and very harmful to those concerned.

There is another side to this. This is the case when someone is holding grief against someone that hurt him or her. He keeps remembering the hurt and so is not able to live beyond the pain. Her crave for revenge causes her to hurt any man that comes near her because of what the first man did to her. In some cases, the man is never able to trust another woman. A serial killer said that he wanted to revenge on every woman the pain a former lover had caused him.